This course gave me the clarity I desperately needed. I thought I was ready for marriage, but I was not ready for myself. Now I am.
Attorney-informed marriage preparationPlan the marriage,
Plan the marriage,
not just the wedding
A guided journey through the conversations, choices, and inner work that help you enter marriage with clarity, wisdom, and a wholehearted yes.
10Core modules
Self-pacedPrivate workbook
LifetimeCourse access
Created byAudrey OranCalifornia family law attorney
Before “I do”Know what you are saying yes to.
wholeness before partnership
Explore the journey
Wedding planning prepares you for a day.
Marriage planning prepares you for a life.
Money · Family · Children · Intimacy · Values · Conflict · Legal clarityThe marriage planning map
Ten conversations that deserve more than assumptions.
The Foundations journey moves from self-knowledge to shared decisions, helping you surface what is aligned, what needs a plan, and what should not be rushed.
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Identity before partnership
Open module 02Know Yourself First
Clarify the patterns, needs, boundaries, and expectations you are bringing into marriage before asking your partner to understand them.
Build financial transparency
Open module 03Money
Move beyond income and debt totals into habits, fear, control, generosity, goals, and the practical systems that shape daily married life.
Define the new family system
Open module 04Family and In-Laws
Prepare for holidays, access, privacy, loyalty, caregiving, traditions, and boundaries before outside pressure tests the relationship.
Talk beyond the yes or no
Open module 05Children: If, When, How
Explore timing, fertility uncertainty, parenting roles, discipline, childcare, education, and what happens if the original plan changes.
Create a language for closeness
Open module 06Intimacy and Communication
Discuss affection, sex, vulnerability, privacy, rejection, repair, and how each partner wants to be approached when connection feels strained.
Make room for two futures
Open module 07Career and Ambition
Name the sacrifices, moves, seasons, risks, and invisible labor that can quietly decide whose dreams receive the most oxygen.
Align the worldview underneath decisions
Open module 08Faith and Values
Clarify faith, ethics, community, rituals, generosity, and the values that will shape your home when there is no easy compromise.
Plan for the moment love feels hard
Open module 09Conflict and Repair
Identify escalation patterns and build practical rules for pauses, apologies, accountability, boundaries, and returning to the conversation.
Replace fear with informed dialogue
Open module 10The Legal Conversation
Understand the purpose of financial disclosure, property conversations, professional advice, and agreements without treating planning as a prediction of failure.
Choose with open eyes
Open module The Commitment
Bring the discoveries together, identify unresolved issues, define next steps, and decide whether the relationship is ready for a clear and wholehearted yes.
“Wholeness is not a bonus. It is the baseline.”
Meet AudreyFrom the courtroom
Read Audrey's story
From the courtroom
to your living room.
After nearly a decade in California family law, Audrey saw how often women entered marriage without the conversations, tools, and self-knowledge they later wished they had.
Plan the Marriage was created to move that wisdom upstream. The goal is not to make love fearful. It is to make commitment more informed, intentional, and honest.
01Identity before attachment
02Preparation before performance
03Covenant with clarity
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Plan the Marriage Foundations
A ten-module interactive marriage planning workbook for the conversations every engaged couple should have before the wedding.
- Ten attorney-informed learning modules
- Private, self-paced digital workbook
- Partner-ready questions and reflection prompts
- Red, yellow, and green clarity signals
- Lifetime access to revisit as life changes
Launch price$97
Log in and enroll Real transformation
Clarity changes the way you choose.
Audrey's wisdom is unmatched. She helped me see patterns I had been repeating for years. This investment in myself will pay dividends for a lifetime.
The legal insights alone were worth the investment. But the inner work changed everything. I feel equipped and empowered.
The marriage planning library
View all guidesStart the conversations before they become conflicts.
Practical, search-friendly guides turn big relationship topics into clear questions and next steps.
Marriage Preparation · 9 min read
The Essential Conversations to Have Before Marriage
A practical guide to the conversations engaged couples should have about money, family, children, intimacy, values, conflict, and commitment.
Read guide 01Money · 8 min readFinancial Questions to Ask Before Marriage
Use these questions to discuss debt, savings, spending, accounts, financial goals, family obligations, and decision-making before marriage.
Read guide 02Checklist · 10 min readMarriage Readiness Checklist: 40 Questions Before You Say I Do
A structured marriage readiness checklist covering identity, trust, money, family, children, intimacy, values, conflict, and legal planning.
Read guide 03Family · 7 min readFamily and In-Law Boundaries to Discuss Before Marriage
Prepare for holidays, privacy, advice, caregiving, financial help, and boundaries with parents and extended family before marriage.
Read guide 04Children · 8 min readQuestions About Children to Discuss Before Marriage
Go beyond whether you want children and discuss timing, fertility, childcare, parenting roles, discipline, education, faith, and contingency plans.
Read guide 05Communication · 8 min readHow to Talk About Conflict and Repair Before Marriage
Create a healthier plan for disagreements, timeouts, apologies, boundaries, repair, and seeking support before marriage.
Read guide 06Questions, answered
Know what the course is, and what it is not.
Plan the Marriage supports education and honest reflection. It does not replace licensed care or advice specific to your circumstances.
01Who is Plan the Marriage for?+
Plan the Marriage is designed for women and engaged couples who want structured, thoughtful conversations before marriage. The curriculum can be completed individually and discussed with a partner.
02Is this premarital counseling?+
No. It is an educational, self-paced marriage planning workbook. It does not provide therapy, legal advice, financial advice, or a substitute for licensed professional care.
03What topics are included?+
The ten modules cover self-knowledge, money, family and in-laws, children, intimacy and communication, career, faith and values, conflict and repair, legal planning, and commitment clarity.
04Can my partner participate?+
Yes. The workbook is designed to support partner-ready conversations so discoveries can become practical decisions and follow-up questions.
05How long do I have access?+
The current Foundations offer includes lifetime access to the digital course and workbook, subject to the live site's purchase terms.
Before the dress. Before the vows. Before the forever.
Choose clarity before commitment.
You are not preparing for a perfect marriage. You are preparing to enter a real one with your eyes, heart, and voice open.